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x-babymonster answered:
If I am getting everything I need in my relationship with him, I have no problem ‘sharing’.
That means open communication, complete honesty, enough attention, affection, etc.
And, as I’ve stated before, you gain so much more from a polya d/s dynamic by forming a bond with your dom’s other subs. You become a family. The level of maturity and communication required of people to make such a dynamic work is unparalleled so it makes the experience a fulfilling one. One I would gladly relive given the right circumstances.
When I was 10, my mom made me wear a bra and it felt like a punishment for being different.
When I was 10, I took the bra off when changing for gymnastics and accidentally dropped it in the school hallway. A teacher picked it up and said, “Oh, this must belong to you” and handed it back to me in front of everyone. I quit gymnastics.
When I was 11, I thought maybe the boobs would be okay so long as they didn’t get any bigger than would fit in my hand, so I kept measuring it, but they did.
When I was 12, I started wearing two or three sports bras to smush them down, until one day a classmate said, “Are you wearing two bras?!” while laughing.
When I was 13, a boy told me he wanted to squeeze my boobs “until they popped.”
When I was 14, I got cast in a play as an older character and a classmate told me I got the role because I had boobs.
When I was 17, my mom told me to return a swimsuit because it would be too distracting for my boyfriend’s father.
When I was 21, I got properly fitted for a bra and everyone felt the need to tell me how much better my boobs looked.
When I was 26, I got pregnant and my immediate fear was that my boobs would get bigger.
When I was 28, I got shamed for trying to feed my screaming baby in public without a cover.
When I was 28, people asked me “why are you bothering to use a breastfeeding cover?”
When I was 30, people gave me weird looks that I wasn’t yelling at my kid for putting their hand on my boob.
When I was 31, I avoided going to the beach or pool because I didn’t want to have to deal with boobs in a swimsuit.
When I was 32, I got asked, again, “why don’t you get a breast reduction?”
When I was 33, I watched a 5yo girl get shamed for running around in sweltering heat without a shirt on and had to reprimand a bunch of tween boys who thought it was okay to shame her for doing something they do all the time.
When I was 34, my kid kept patting my breast and saying “Mommy’s squishy breast!!” They will never see me express any shame about tits, because I want them to have a different mindset than I had. Yes, boobs are nice! They’re squishy! They’re fun! That’s the end of that.
I’m 35 and no longer give a fuck. I don’t care anymore. As a teenager my tits were covered in stretch marks. They’ve been engorged with milk. My nipple changed shape with pregnancy. Give it another couple decades and my breasts will probably be all wrinkly. It’s sexual when I’m using it sexually. I don’t fucking care, and I won’t be ashamed anymore.
Every time a policy or cultural hangup treats people with breasts differently, it fucks us over.
Tumblr’s new policy makes an active choice to participate in this culture of shame. By classifying “female-presenting nipples” as explicit material, Tumblr has taken a stance that any chest or breast that differs from a male default is worthy of shame and unavoidably sexual. The idea that breasts are shameful and unavoidably sexual is exactly what fucked me up for so much of my life.
Stop shaming people for having bodies.
I’ve been seething in rage thinking of this all day and @aibidil put into words what was reeling in my mind.
Our bodies are not porn.
There *is* one positive to “female presenting” nipples … m to f trans nipples are included, since they “present” as female.
Being a Daddy without a little can be hard, especially when you’re just coming out of a relationship or if you haven’t been in a relationship for a while and you’re lonely. It can be very tempting to just start blindly reaching out to every little you encounter, but this will only make you look desperate and creepy to many littles. Loneliness is a powerful force, but it can be a terrible reason to enter into this particular lifestyle. So, what’s a Daddy to do?
First and foremost, even without having a little of your own, be a Daddy. How can someone be a Daddy without a little, you ask? Being a Daddy isn’t something that magically happens because you have a little, being a Daddy is something that you are. Littles don’t stop being littles when they are without a Daddy, and neither do Daddies stop being Daddies when they are without a little. Being a Daddy is a state of mind, a manner of conducting yourself, and a way of life. Having a little gives you the chance to be her Daddy, but it does not make you a Daddy. That part, that essence, comes from within.
How should a Daddy act when he hasn’t got a little? The same way he should act in public and around other littles who are not his littles. A Daddy should be a gentleman - not rude, crude, or boorish. He should be friendly without being overly familiar with new people, especially littles. He should command respect with his bearing and demeanor, not demand it with his words like an impetuous, petulant teenager. If you carry yourself properly, you do not have to ask for or demand respect from most people; they will recognize the need to give you respect merely from your presence.
You don’t always have to walk around in a suit and tie to be a Daddy. Many Daddies are construction workers or laborers or hold other blue collar jobs. If you are just getting off work, there’s no shame in having dirt on you. The mud and dirt and grime of a working man are like badges of honor. That being said, if you know you’re going out in public, especially in the company of a little, and you have the time to clean up, you should absolutely do so. A Daddy should take pride in his appearance. You may not be a model, but you can always be presentable.
When speaking, a Daddy should always be respectful, especially when talking to littles that aren’t his littles. You can’t expect littles to listen to you, take orders from you, or otherwise behave as if you are their Daddy just because you claim the title. You can ask that they call you by your name, or “Mister” or “Mr. ____” because these are just generic terms of respect. You can ask to be called “Sir”, but do not be surprised if they decline that term because of the connection that may have with some of their past “Sirs”. If you present it, present it as an option, not a demand. When you present littles with options, they are much more open than if you simply order or instruct them to call you one particular title. As you develop more of a relationship with them, they may agree to more formal titles and you might just begin the process of forming a bond with a little, but it is not something to rush.
Remember that submission, whether from a sub or a little, is a gift. It requires a trust that must be earned and a level of respect above and beyond the cursory respect reserved for strangers. You cannot expect it from them right away, and you must never demand it from anyone. If you are the right kind of person, and if you are patient and allow the relationship to develop, it might happen. When it does, recognize that it is a conditional gift, and should you lose sight of the significance of it and if you should stop being worthy of it, it can be revoked at any time.
Finally, when speaking, Daddies should not be overly prideful or boastful. You don’t need to correct everyone, nor should you constantly attempt to prove that you’re the smartest or most interesting man in the room. You are not there seeking approval from others or attempting to persuade anyone of your worthiness as an individual or as a Daddy. You simply are. You are a presence that exudes calm and confidence, so you have nothing to prove to anyone. Be yourself, be truthful, and look after those around you. I always liken myself to a sheepdog, guarding my flock. I can be playful and loving, but I can also go into attack mode should my flock be threatened. Adopt this mentality and it will serve you well.
Until next time!
Reblogged from my nsfw account
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(it wouldn’t let me tag like half the people I wanted to tag. Sorry!)
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Trying to decide if I even want to bother going any place. Maybe this tumblr shit is a sign…
Anonymous asked:
cuppiee-cake answered:
🙊😍 maybe it is anon. 😘
littlemscurlyhairedprincess asked:
Smooch away, princess!
